Yes, I see what you mean when you say that in 3 Idiots, Aamir Khan condemned parents directing their children’s lives and in Dangal he celebrates it.
There are a few differences, when you write the story you get to make your politics sorted. But Dangal is not anyone’s imagination, while it has been movie-fied ( I thought Geeta won the gold super decisively 2-0, and she never let her opponent score in that bout ) in essence it is a movie about a dad who forced him dreams on his children. As a movie maker, in such a story your politics can be shown in multiple ways, the song ‘Hanikarak Bappu’ calls out the dad’s treatment of his children clearly. Even he himself calls it out in the later part of the movie.
So no, I do not think parents should fulfill their dreams to their children, but Dangal couldn’t be done any other way.
It’s like asking for a movie about a soldier , but there shouldn’t be war because wars are bad.
It wasn’t an ‘inspiring’ movie for me, but then I do not get inspired by movies. It had its heart at the right place. Yes, the empowerment part of women from a patriarchal scenario is addressed with respect to the general public, but it is still a “father/man’s dream superseding his children’s “.
It tries to correct its own inherent patriarchy in the story in multiple ways. A confession by Aamir himself adds to that.
Somewhere I read about him hating his girls because they were girls etc. That is not the Dangal I saw.
Geeta and Babita Phogat are legends ( yes, I am still annoyed at them and their coach for missing Olympics 2016 ). They were made legends by a father who tried to fulfill his dreams through his children. While I do not believe in ” Everyone does it, so it’s okay”, that’s what happened to almost every child. Either the parents or society decides what he or she is going to become. I see change happening, but this is not a 2016 movie. It’s a nineties movie with politics that wants to be in 2016. It succeeds in most parts.
That makes it a masterclass.